I’ve partnered up with Secret and their Mean Stinks campaign, and I couldn’t be happier to share how to help our kids keep the mean out of schools, cuz it stinks! We all want happy kids at school!
Here are a few things I do to help talk to my kids about school and bullying.
1. Family Meetings - On our way home from school we walk and talk about how their day went. They usually tell me about something that happened, how lunch went, or what project they’re working on. It’s a good time to see if there’s anything pressing or fresh on their minds from their day.
About once a week Jordan and I try to sit them down after dinner on the couch and have a little “check in” time. We dive a little deeper into their school day, picking up on clues they might give. We ask about their friends, what they like, don’t like, who they play with at recess, what they do at recess. You’ll be surprised what you’ll hear and how much they’ll share if you take the time to listen. I love it.
2. Be involved - invite their friends over for a play date. Or you could meet the child’s family at the park and get to know the parents too, learning a little more about who your child chooses to play with. This is a great way to observe how your child reacts around other kids as well. Watch their behavior to see if your child isn’t the one being mean. And if they are, talk to them about it and how someone might feel from their behavior. We’ve got to do something about it if we see it.
Another great way to see how it all goes down at school is to volunteer in the classroom. Ask the teacher if you can come in to help, I’m sure they’d LOVE it, and be a fly on the wall. Sit in the corner cutting or folding or something where you can observe how your child interacts with other children in the class.
3. Lead by example - it starts from the top! My kids see me with my friends and even when I’m just talking with Jordan. I know there have been times when I have said something about someone and it probably wasn’t nice. I really need to watch what I do and say all the time, making sure to be an example to my kids.
What are you doing to help your kids keep the mean out of schools? 3 cheers for happy kids at school!
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