We are getting an ultrasound on our baby this next week. The question that we have been faced with is “Should we find out the gender of the baby or wait until it is born?” We currently have one boy and one girl. So this would be a good time not to know the gender. We pretty much have all the supplies and clothing that we need for either baby. Of course my boy Matt thinks it’s a boy and my girl Lucy thinks it’s a girl, (she thinks she has a girl baby in her tummy too).
I am stumped. As it is getting closer, I don’t know what to do. Lots of people say to wait, but that is easy for them to say. We have people saying that it is just as big of a surprise at the ultrasound, so just find out now. We also have some friends who found out what it was, but then didn’t tell anyone else until it was born. Or there are some like my Mom that say, “Well, when I was having babies, they didn’t have any of that fancy equipment.”
What have you done at the very anticipated ultrasound? What should we do?
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I say don’t find out! I am normally all about planning ahead, but I decided that if we have another I don’t want to find out the gender. Since we have one of each it would be fun to be surprised! So that’s my suggestion.
Find out! I just had my 20 week last week and found out! Of course, I already had 2 boys, so if it was a girl (it is!) I wanted to be totally ready.
In addition to that, though, finding out the sex helps me bond better with the baby before it’s born. Maybe I’m just weird, but it helps me a lot!
I found out with all four of my children. with the fourth, we were all sure it was a boy, my son wanted a brother so badly, and the girls were rooting for a boy as well. when we found out it was another girl all the kids were dissapointed. I’m glad we found out then so that they could get used to the idea of a girl. if they hadn’t found out until the delivery day, they may have focused on their dissapointment instead of how wonderful their littlest sister was!
but really it’s just that i can’t stand not knowing. :)
With my first I didn’t find out (a girl), I really didn’t mind either way. With my second, my husband was keen to find out, so reluctantly I agreed. They told us another girl (at 20 weeks) which I was happy with – so imagine my surprise when 20 weeks later out popped Tommy!!!!
Normally I’d say find out. It’s a surprise either way. However, since you already have one of each, it might be fun to wait to the end and see what it is.
Nah-find out. lol You can always have them write it down if you’re still unsure and decide later.
I found out with each of my four, but now wished I would have waited on at least one of them. Of course I liked knowing and it was great, but there is something about the whole “it’s a …..” that would be really fun. My two cents!
We were surprised both times and it was so lovely! I mean, I went a little mental sometimes, but it was soooo fun to find out in the delivery room (and I was surprised both times – each time I thought I was having a boy and it was a girl – so neat!). What works for me might not work for you though. The only reason I didn’t lose it and call the doctor to find out is because I knew my husband wouldn’t forgive me easily!
This is hilarous- I have a friend here right now in the same situation as you and she didn’t find out yesterday! It’s kiling me- I could never do that!! You have to find out- there’s already enough surprises that come when the new baby arrives! Just find out!!!
I would hate it if you found out and didn’t tell us! I think either way will be exciting! Let us know.
My husband and I don’t have kids (yet) and that is one of the things we have to figure out too! He really wants to wait, and I can’t ever wait two weeks to figure out what my Christmas presents are. I wish I could have patience… I think it’d be fun to find out the sex once the child was born… but it would be nice too to prepare… what do I know?
it would personally drive me nuts NOT to find out because I’m kind of a control freak/planner type. Plus I like what the other girl said about bonding… helps when you know what you’re bonding with!!
Finding out is like opening a Christmas present before the big day. When I was a kid, we would find where our parents hid the presents. We knew long before what we were getting.
Christmas was still wonderful, but the surprise and suspense who have made it more meaningful.
That said, we finally found out the gender of our fourth child after the surprise of three girls.
We only found out on one of our four (and we didn’t tell anyone) It was anticlimatic if you ask me. No one is disappointed when they see a new baby. I also think it makes everyone around more excited for the big day (and baby)to arrive!
I’m the kind of person who can’t stand to have information known, but not to me. So if I were getting the ultrasound for otherreasons besides sex determination, and it became obvious to the tech, I’d want them to tell me. But if baby was hiding I wouldn’t want to push him/her to show. :)
I think that when I have a boy and a girl, I will wait. Then again I am not usually one that can wait!! It would be fun to not know, but it would kill me if I didn’t know because my mom does prego ultrasounds for my doctor…so she would know and I wouldn’t. That’s a tough one!
We were only going to have one ultrasound and we decided that we wanted to find out, but the baby was cross-legged with an arm between the legs so, no dice. I realized after though that I liked not knowing and if I was to have another, I wouldn’t find out. The only thing I didn’t like was all of the mint green clothes we ended up with in the beginning.
I think you should find out because you should plan ahead like what color room you want it to be or what to buy. Or you could do it old fashion like my mom did to me, you get a ring and a chain and put the ring ing the change so the ring dangles from the chain put it over your belly and if it circles its a boy and if it goes back and forth its a girl. Also you may want to be ready to find out what to name em’
Oooooooo! There are so many good reasons for both. I will let you all in on what happened at the appointment tomorrow. I am happy with the decision we made. I loved all the advice from everyone!
Thanks.
I say find out. I’ve never been able to wait!!!